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Also, I get the impression that most of the people who are arguing with scaredy about compromise within a relationship aren’t married. If they were married, they would understand the need to compromise. You either compromise or eventually you get divorced. That’s how it works.
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I’m married. Also had some long-term relationships (7+years) living w/someone, but not married. True about compromise, but on an issue of children, how do you compromise? It should be mutually agreeable.
As I said, to me, compromise is mutual concessions. If scaredy reluctantly agrees to have another child, he would be compromising himself, but where is the “mutual” in this scenario?
It seems to me, for the word “compromise” to be valid, there would be modification of demands by both sides. I guess, in return, his wife is happy and maybe he accepts that as a compromise, but that strikes me more as strong-arming and coercing. I don’t find that a becoming quality in any relationship. That’s just me.
Maybe I’m too just too idealistic and prefer to think of win-win situations. I personally wouldn’t want to be bullied or manipulated to do something, so I wouldn’t do it to someone else, either.
Compromise, to me would be “I want children.” “I want a child.” Okay. 1 or 2 instead of 3. You know what I’m saying. Both sides have to give something. To me, that’s the definition.
