I’d like to throw the reverse question out there. How do you feel about the gifts that your child receives at birthday parties? Would you (all) be fine with $10 cash or $15 gifts, or do you expect more (or less)?
I could also do without the accumulation of junk that comes along with the birthday gift receiving although I know that my son really enjoys opening the gifts. I would feel a bit awkward receiving anything too valuable (except from the aunts/uncles).
As for why the offsite parties… I live in an apartment that isn’t that conducive to having parties. I am a proponent of limiting the number of guests that can be invited though (just because of the sheer cost).