I totally agree that life is too short so sit in traffic. The 8 East commute is OK as long as you can do it around 3:00 to 3:30. I’ve lived in Lakeside/El Cajon/San Carlos for the last several years (working at 32nd Street and North Island). You have to be able to leave work before the rush if you want to enjoy life.
I’d rather drive for 45 minutes with no traffic than sit in stop and go traffic for 20 minutes. This is a BIG issue for me.