I think you have a better perspective than most men, TG. You’ve earned your wisdom through trial and error…and dating the crazy horse women. 😉
Not sure the majority of single men in their 40s++ are looking for the same thing.
From what I’ve seen, there are two camps. One that is a bit more realistic and who are past the superficial stuff, and understand what makes a relationship an enjoyable experience. The other camp is comprised of the men who are looking for what I’ve described above.
This second camp seems to be the majority from what I’ve seen — from the perspective of my single friends. Admittedly, I don’t know too many single people these days, though; so it might be skewed data. 😉