For me, I would do a condo or townhouse to get a top school for my kid and or a short commute. And would live in a less safe neighborhood to attend the best schools. If that scenario existed.
There are some 10’s in San Diego county. Or at least by this scale.
If you have the home improvement skills, you could get a fixer and put some of your cash toward repairs. Done right, you could gain some sweat equity out of the gate.