[quote=FlyerInHi]CAr, what’s wrong with having high expectations that your kids will be chosen among the smartest?
A top education is a badge of merit, if your kids can get in on their own, without you pulling strings. Connections trumps merit, but everyone wants to make it in their own in some way.
People often talk about merit and hard work. But they don’t mean it for themselves.
If I had kids, I would teach them early on that the Ivy league is the only way, and I will find a way when it comes time. if you don’t teach them any differently, that’s the only thing they know. Maybe they don’t make it, and that’s totally fine but you have to set expectations for excellence.[/quote]
Nothing at all wrong with high expectations, but there is a difference between that and “paying for a dream,” as scaredy noted.
Also, I think you grossly underestimate how expensive kids are, even before they ever step foot in college. I’m sure most of us parents have been a bit surprised at the expenses once the kids come along. With multiple kids? Forget it, you’re toast. Not saying it’s not worth it — it’s beyond worth it to most of us as the emotional “ROI” is out of this world — but there is no doubt that having kids is one of the worst possible financial decisions one can make. They cost A LOT of money.
