CbC, you may have been conned but I think you were probably also complicit. I don’t know of any child support payments that are crushing compared to the earning power of the person paying. Further, the “greedy ex-wife” is probably spending more every month on the kids than she is receiving. From your “my s@$t don’t stink” tone, I bet you are a step-monster. I’ve seen quite a few doozies. Finally, some of the most crooked people I have ever met cloaked their greed under a mantle of religion and were pastors.