[quote=CBad]I realize if you don’t have the details and the history on the situation, that my conditions may seem harsh. Trust me, there is a reason for every one of them. Don’t talk in metaphors though, just come out and say it. I’m a big girl and can take what I dish out.
And I agree he probably needs healing. And I know I cannot force anyone to do anything.
The easiest thing in the world would be for me to throw money at him and this has been done several times only to end up in the same situation. My form of help this time is teaching him to fish.
lbjames, thanks for your comments. It will make ALL the difference in the world if I see progress. The time frame is a compromise between my husband and I. I would go longer but I put my husband and kids first and I do everything with my husband through compromise. I do not trust this person to babysit my kids though that would be a nice advantage. And if my house were larger and he was doing great in school/work/life, I would let him rent a room cheap after the time frame. We just do not have the room which is why this is a sacrifice.[/quote]
well.. after your replies, it seems like this person has maybe burned a few bridges before, so I think your rules are fair also. Open for negotiation if the person isn’t looking for a place to shack up for 2 months..
