[quote=CardiffBaseball]Thanks BG, it’s not always easy. I don’t like having to watch her weaken. A big strong 5’10” swimmer girl, deadlifting 280 at the crossfit down in Encinitas, just a few years back, now getting weakened with each passing day. She’s 45 her sister died at 42 of Ovarian, I am just hoping she hangs on long enough to bury her parents though they seem very at peace with everything. Stage IV people, know there isn’t a cure so they stop going to the pink ribbon walks. At this point it’s all about surviving as long as you can.
She told me please don’t put in my obituary that she “went peacefully”. She fought like a mofo, is what it ought to say.[/quote]
Hey Cardiff, my sister was a woman in a “man’s world” very early on and she would have advised us to have her epitaph read the same as your spouse told you, “I fought like a mofo.” I spoke at length in a eulogy for her where we transported her remains to be buried in her “flyover state” hometown.” She was such an inspiration to me which, to this day, reflects who I am now. I didn’t have the education or experience that she possessed but gained so much from having her in my life (although mostly telephonically due to distance in the years preceding and up to her death) as she resided in the state of MD (near DC).
Keep on keepin’ on, Cardiff. Your spouse needs your support right now. My earlier post was predicated on your earlier post:
I just felt at the time of my post that your spouse having progressed from Stage 1-2 to Stage 4 in ~7 months was not a positive sign. However, none of us know our “time is up” until death is imminent.
Keep on being the great support that you are to your spouse, Cardiff. That is what she needs right now. Her parents have undoubtedly seen a lot of “stuff” in their lifetimes and are more accepting of the inevitable cycles of life … and death.
