CA Renter, hats off to you! Yes, active duty and families do receive more benefits now. And, yes, the spouses do whine at times, and need to be set straight. However, many are young and do not understand the military, and it seems that new marriages at such a young age with long periods of separation create a greater level of anxiety. Older more established marriages seem to tolerate the separations more effectively. And, most of lower ranking enlisted are young.
Service members can also contact The Fleet and Family Support Center (FFSC) for assistance. There is an FFSC at every base and satellite offices in Murphy Canyon, Serra Mesa and Bayview.