[quote=Blogstar]Look at how comfortable we seem to be selling pipe dreams to our kids though.
Dreams of going to college(expensive and time consuming) and moving from friends and family and community for work that maybe pays a little better …but they might get a house, with the right future part time parent buying partner. That’s fine, but I bet it isn’t for a lot of kids(people) even if from “good” families. THe way you paint it BG, I hope almost everyone fails to launch , for their own sake.
Some people need to have different priorities than all that, even if the end looking under achiever instead of a degreed cubicle rat. Heaven forbid , our kids look a little like underachieving artist types or “only a fireman” or something like that. I just tell mine that if you want to make your hobbies your priority , you might have to learn to live on little means, but you have to take care of yourself. There are no guarantees either way.[/quote]
Russ, I didn’t need to “sell” any “pipe dreams” to any of my kids. They’ve got eyes and ears. While in HS, they could easily see how well the twenty-something siblings of their HS friends who were still living at “home” were doing, while trying to pretend to be serious about attending CC taking 1-2 classes at a time into perpetuity and working at Roberto’s Taco Shack slash/ partying on the weekends with their HS homies who elected to stay behind at the family homestead after HS. Several of them were parents at the age of 19 and again at 21 and 23 years old …. unmarried, of course and still living with mom and/or dad.
I hope things work out for your kids if they elect not to attend college. If they stay in the homestead after HS, at the very least they should check into ROP programs at your nearby Cuyamaca College. All the CA CC’s are now ramping up ROP programs at the expense of class selection for prospective university transfer students. Some of those trades (HVAC for one) start at $30-$35 hr for a journeyman (new ROP graduate). Just a suggestion, FWIW ….
