[quote=Allan from Fallbrook][quote=Cabal] Believe it or not, they live check to check supporting the McMansion and lifestyle. Not long ago, he ask her to consider getting a job or cut back on discretionary spending. Her answer was “No, if I have to get a job what do I need you for?” The arrogance and sense of entitlement is just unbelievable. This may be an extreme example, but in my experience, there are many women with similar attitudes, especially in mid-upper class north county society. The keeping up with Joneses mentality and competitive nature of these women is truly frightening. I can only conclude that irrational fear of losing everything can drive women to be this way.
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Cabal: If anything, the situation you describe above has only grown worse during the downturn. The parents of one of my players were hammered over the last few years (he was a mortgage broker and she was a Realtor) and their standard of living has plummeted. They seemed to tolerate each other before, but now it’s turned vile and she openly berates him publicly, which is painful and embarrassing to watch. He is a decent enough sort, and he almost acts like he deserves this treatment from her.
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That is just SO wrong. As if these poor guys don’t feel bad enough, being as that men place so much of their self-worth on being good bread winners. To kick someone with they’re down like that is terrible.
I’m often in groups of women where all they do is bitch about their husbands- then they look at me like.. well, what do you have to add to the conversation?
I always say- “I dunno..I like MY husband” which usually doesn’t go over so well.
It’s too bad that husbands and wives are so often more like adversaries than teammates. These people don’t know how nice it is to have someone whose support you can always count on and vice versa.