[quote=6packscaredy]The thought of being a stay at home dad makes me feel ill.
Although I loved Alternadad by Neal pollock.
But I wouldn’t be as opposed to caring for grandchildren.
I would prefer to work though.[/quote]
The point is that every couple should be able to make the choices that best suit them.
And I want to clarify something about my own situation. Before we got married (before we were even engaged), we had numerous discussions about our beliefs and philosophies regarding family, running a household, financial arrangements, parenting styles, wage earning, etc. I told my husband that I would either be a wage earner with no children or a SAHP, but not both; and he would be the one who could make the decision (or decide not to marry, altogether). He was thrilled to find out that I would be willing to stay home, so made the decision for us. Because of his decision, though, I insisted on some extra legal protections via a nuptial agreement. That’s how all of that came about. I realized, right from the beginning, that being a SAHP was very high risk. It’s incredibly naive and ignorant to insist that the wage-earning spouse is the one who takes all the risks; the research shows that it’s quite the opposite.
