Having resided in CV, I can understand how some who have not lived there might have the impression that CV residents might be unapproachable, but we never found that to be the case.
We enjoyed living there, because we found it to be an extension of the way my wife and I as well as our kids grew up–great family, great homes, educational opportunities, golf, tennis, music, etc., etc.–a lifestyle that existed long before there was a CV.
Interestingly, even with all of the positive elements young people are offered in that environment, our kids are amazed at how many of their peers haven’t achieved their goals after college, compared to those in past generations who were raised in much the same way. It does make you wonder why.