[quote=FlyerInHi]Blogstar, you are too kind and positive.

Surely you can imagine the social pressure a man would face if, at the onset, he declares that his goal in life is to be a homemaker.[/quote]

I wonder about that, I had very little parenting and my parents were deceased by the time I was 20, so I was sort of free of that….My dad was not as cool as scaredy.

Worrying about what other people think and do is always optional.

I was very nervous about my vision when I was young….to women on a middle class or higher trajectory , women with brains, I think I was pretty much good enough to play with but not marry. Women have generally always liked me so I could have gotten the exposure to receptive types. I came from a terrible childhood and thought that was against me…too scary. Had I been a stronger person though, I could have brought about any scenario I wanted to. I probably walked away from a good one or two for lack of confidence.Like anyone, I had to be careful not sell my soul…I was afraid of that. I was afraid of bad endings too. It never occurred to me to be anything but a hybrid type that I have been talking about…not a full time stay at home dad, not a sole “breadwinner” … Now , I could sort of approximate full-time SAHD indefinitely if I want to, there are some business things I handle but not much. With the kids in school they don’t really need a stay at home parent . My wife is totally cool with it , she is getting what she always wanted and doesn’t see why I shouldn’t choose. Still, its a transitional time.

.A young man today at least up to 40, could probably put out an add or just date women and include interest in marriage and full time homemaking and do pretty well. Probably get some interesting dates. You have to believe you are a good catch at that and be sincere, I suppose. It would take some cajones…but I think that is usually true.