Having attended public schools my entire life, and had many friends and a few girlfriends that attended private religious schools, I say this in response to your statement:
ahem… “HAHAHHAHAHAHHA”
Some of the most strung out, permisquis, socially screwed up people I grew up with attended private religious schools here in San Diego. That said, many of them turned out fairly well and sucessful later in life. But at the end of the day, I feel that proper parenting plays a greater roll, along with the avenues (socially, academically, etc) provided.
To say that the only way to raise a properly adjusted, socially responsible child is to enroll them into a private school (religious or not), shows a disconnect from reality. If you would like to raise good kids and eventually adults, enroll them in a good school (public or private), be a responsible parent, and understand that the remainder requires the kid to make the right decisions on their own.