Those of us who are married have experienced both marriage and single life. We’ve seen both sides of the fence, which you have not. With all due respect, I’ll take the advice/opinions of someone with actual experience and insight over someone who’s had no experience with the subject at hand.
It’s fine to be selfish and stay single. None of us are trying to change you or your opinions. Why do you and dave feel the need to constantly criticize *our* choices and opinions? Why do you feel that we (who actually have experience and knowledge about marriage) are fooling ourselves because we don’t agree with you?