davelj, I don’t ask any of them whether they’re happy or not. I observe their actions toward each other. My theory is, action speaks much louder than words.

There are a gazillion variables in regards to human emotions. So, I would have to guess that no one is 100% happy all the time. By your logic, countries that don’t have divorce laws like we do would have 100% divorce rate, or at least 80%. What about countries that favor men in all things, like the middle east. They can keep their money, kids, and no messy divorce. Yet, why are they still married? I can’t tell you how many are happy after 30+ years of marriage, but I can say for certain there are more than 5.

BTW, how do you know that those men who stick around because of kids, finances, reputation, and/or general inertia are not happy because of those things? A nagging wife might not make him happy, but these other things that comes with a nagging wife makes him even more happy. We are not living in a personal utopia world. So no one gets everything they wanted. But that doesn’t mean they’re not happy. If they really are not happy and still stick around, then I would have to say, they need to grow some balls.