CV has no soul. It is a pretentious area where the people feel they must have a woman at home and the man work and still have a maid and nanny. They must drive BMWs, Mercedes or Range Rovers. Be very carefull about saying hello to someone in CV as they may scurry off in a frenzy of fear. There are no restaurants, choice of shopping and is starting to get really congested.
4S, has more soul, more real people. The schools are top notch, the area is green, lush, friendly folks, a ton of parks and more parks going in. Traffic to downtown will add about 20 minutes to your commute than if you lived in CV. Both are pretty far places to live if you work downtown.
Now you are probably saying to yourself. This guy must live in 4S for talking so highly about it. You’re wrong. I live in CV, proper CV, not Pacific highlands but CV near Carmel country road/carmel mountain road. I have been there for 5 years. Even when my brother came to visit he went to the vons and came back and asked me why I lived there. I was perplexed. he said he has never seen so many rude and inconsiderate people in his life. He said no one looked happy, they are all into themselves, busy on their cells, etc… that was exactly how I felt.