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November 12, 2015 at 10:05 PM #791266November 12, 2015 at 10:11 PM #791267zkParticipant
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[quote=zk]
Put down your misogyny-tinted glasses and then read scaredy’s posts again. What scaredy said was that he was neurotic, and that he didn’t want to create another generation of neurotic men. What he said in reference to females was:“Is this intrinsic to men or is the above description the result of the last generation of mothers screwing with their sons heads. “
And when he said “this,” he was referring to your description of what made a man a good friend to other men. And part of his point was that women can’t understand what makes a man a good friend to another man, and that they should stay out of the discussion. And that those moms (and maybe our culture) shouldn’t be trying to feminize men. Not because there’s anything wrong with women. But because there’s nothing wrong with men being men.[/quote]
Right here, you’re repeating the statement (via your explanation of scaredy’s post) that “women can’t understand what makes a man a good friend tto another man, and that they should stay out of the discussion.”
Based on this post, and the other one I just quoted above, it seems as though you are agreeing with this sentiment.
If you follow your logic, then men can’t understand what women think or feel (about feminism or misogyny), either; therefore, they should stay out of the discussion.
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If you follow my logic, you’ll come to the conclusion that a man cannot understand what misogyny feels like to a woman, and should therefore stay out of the discussion of what misogyny feels like to a woman. Just like a woman should stay out of the discussion of how one man’s behavior feels to another man. And you’d never find me professing to know what misogyny feels like to a woman.Just because one doesn’t understand what it feels like to be a victim of misogyny doesn’t mean that one can’t understand the causes, manifestations, and outward effects of misogyny.
In fact, I would say understanding what misogyny feels like is not even the most important part of understanding and preventing misogyny. The most important part, it seems to me, would be understanding exactly what turns people into misogynists. Knowing what it feels like to be raped is not the most important part of understanding and preventing rape. Knowing what it feels like to be stabbed isn’t the most important part of understanding and preventing knife attacks. Knowing what it feels like to be robbed at gunpoint isn’t the most important part of understanding and preventing armed robbery. Etc.
Misogyny is not in the eye of the beholder. Misogyny is in the heart of the misogynist. So if anyone really understands misogyny, it would be men (or women) who hate women.
[quote=CA renter]And I would argue that some men do indeed understand sexism and misogyny, but there is a range of understanding, among both men and women, regarding these ideas. See, the world is not black and white, no matter how desperately you try to frame things that way.
[/quote]Not sure why you think I see things in black and white. Quite the opposite, when it comes to people. Nonetheless, when debating, I use evidence, logic, and reason. That’s not the same as seeing/framing things in black and white.
November 12, 2015 at 10:12 PM #791259zkParticipant.
November 12, 2015 at 10:29 PM #791264zkParticipant[quote=CA renter]
Again, every single one of your “points” hinges on your belief that I “wear misogyny-tinted glasses.” If you can show me a point that you’ve made that addresses the issue without relying on this claim, please point it out.
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From page 4 (where our debate started):
[quote=zk][quote=CA renter][quote=Blogstar]You think boys and girls don’t mix in 2015 and you call it “misogynistic”? Wow![/quote]What if we changed it to say this:
“You think whites and blacks don’t mix in 2015 and you call it “racist”? Wow!
What, exactly, are you surprised by? That it appears as though boys and girls are more segregated today than when we were growing up; or that, if true, it would be considered misogynistic?[/quote]
That doesn’t even make sense. That analogy would only hold water if someone had said that lack of interracial interaction was due to blacks hating whites and someone else said:
“You think whites and blacks don’t mix in 2015 and you say it’s because blacks hate whites? Wow!”
See, because that would be taking issue with laying the blame for the lack of interaction on one side. You blamed misogyny, and Russ took issue with it. The speaker above blamed blacks’ hate for whites. To take issue with that seems like a valid, proper, basically required response.[/quote]
I pointed out the failure of logic in your analogy. The identification of this failure had nothing to do with your misogyny-tinted glasses.[quote=zk]
[quote=CA renter]
My response to Brian should make clear my position on this. In the vast majority of cases that we’ve seen and experienced, the segregation is being done to prevent the “feminization” of boys; it’s not done to prevent the girls from becoming too masculine.
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Here’s where you’re wrong:
Not wanting boys to be like girls is not the same as hating females. It’s not misogyny. Do you want boys to be like girls? Do you want girls to be like boys?
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I pointed out your erroneous assertion that not wanting boys to be like girls is the same as hating girls. (You had earlier said that the segregation of boys and girls was misogynistic). This, again, does not rely on the assumption that you wear misogyny-tinted glasses.
[quote=zk]Parents are much more protective these days than 30 or 40 years ago. Kids back then were left unattended most of their free time. They were allowed to do all kinds of things that most parents today wouldn’t dream of letting their kids do. Our culture has gradually shifted from kids doing mostly what they want with whom they want, to one where kids are ultra-closely monitored, and that has left the sexes relatively segregated. Nothing misogynistic about it. Again, the desire to keep girls away from boys is at least as big a part of it as the other way around.
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I pointed out a reasonable alternative to your theory of why children are segregated. Not dependent on your M.T.G.
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[quote=CA renter]
Look at scaredy’s posts about his sons. That is what we see on a daily basis — the notion that females are “screwed up” and neurotic, and that boys need to be protected from that.
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Put down your misogyny-tinted glasses and then read scaredy’s posts again. What scaredy said was that he was neurotic, and that he didn’t want to create another generation of neurotic men. What he said in reference to females was:“Is this intrinsic to men or is the above description the result of the last generation of mothers screwing with their sons heads. “
And when he said “this,” he was referring to your description of what made a man a good friend to other men. And part of his point was that women can’t understand what makes a man a good friend to another man, and that they should stay out of the discussion. And that those moms (and maybe our culture) shouldn’t be trying to feminize men. Not because there’s anything wrong with women. But because there’s nothing wrong with men being men.[/quote]
I mentioned your M.T.G., but my point was not dependent on them. I pointed out that you misread scaredy’s post (and that therefore your point was not valid).
[quote=zk]
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And women absolutely do pass on the misogyny. You have no idea how many times I’ve heard women say:“I have such a GREAT relationship with my son. There is nothing like the relationship between a mother and her son. Boys are just so special.”
[/quote]Thinking boys are special is not misogyny.
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I pointed out your erroneous assertion that thinking boys are special equates to misogyny. Nothing to do with your M.T.G. (Except maybe evidence that you’re wearing them).[quote=CA renter]
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This male-worship is not uncommon among women. My MIL is the same way. Every time when I was pregnant, she would tell me how much she hoped for a grandson, and was clearly disappointed when we kept having girls. My own mother did the same thing, too.
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Lots of grandmothers hope for granddaughters, too. But your misogyny-tinted glasses filter that out.
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I pointed out that lots of grandmothers hope for granddaughters. Again, that’s not dependent on your M.T.G., it’s evidence of them. Do you really think that significantly more than 50% of grandmothers hope for grandsons rather than granddaughters?Ok, that’s just on the first half of the first page of our debate. Need I go on?
[quote=CA renter]I can’t remember a single point that you’ve made that doesn’t rely on this underlying assumption. Your statements that I’ve “made things up,” or that I’m “imagining things” don’t count as logical arguments.
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Well, there’s a few for you, just from the first half page.
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To the contrary, you have not witnessed a single situation that I’ve talked about…so YOU are the one “making things up,” based on your faulty assumption that I am incapable of identifying sexism or misogyny because I experienced it at an early age — as do most people
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There you go misrepresenting my position again. Do you not realize that everything we’ve written is right there for anyone to read? Do you not realize how desperate you appear when you misrepresent your debate opponent’s position?I never said you are incapable of identifying sexism or misogyny. I said you might sometimes see it where it doesn’t exist.
[quote=CA renter]
, BTW; but you wouldn’t necessarily notice it because you think it’s “normal” behavior. For your information, guiding your daughter to pink toys is sexist; dragging her to malls and nail parlors, without guiding her to “boys” events and activities, with similar frequency and enthusiasm, is sexist; suggesting to your children that there are “boys activities” and “girls activities” is sexist.
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While I’ve never done any of the above, I don’t think that guiding a boy to boys’ activities more than girls’ activities if he’s shown a predisposition to like boys’ activities, and your time and resources are limited, is sexist.
[quote=CA renter]I didn’t ignore your question about the parents’ intentions.
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You didn’t ignore them? Did you discuss them with somebody else? Because there certainly wasn’t anything on this forum about them.[quote=CA renter]
Just the fact that you insist that there are “girls activities” and “boys activities” is sexist in itself (read the literature, you don’t have to take my word for it).
[/quote]There’s literature all over the map on this subject.
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The fact that you think that the spectrum of gender-based behavior looks more like a barbell with huge curves at each end and very little mixing in the middle shows that you have sexist beliefs. So much of what you see and believe is socialized, it is not innate, as you seem to think it is.
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If the curve really does look like that, is it sexist to believe that it looks like that?[quote=CA renter]
As to your inability to see all this sexism and misogyny in your own life, if you believe that it’s “natural” for boys to do “boy things” and girls to do “girl things,” then it’s unlikely that you would question the parents about their behaviors…that’s probably why you “haven’t seen these behaviors” in 15 years of parenting.
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How would believing that it’s natural for most boys to want to do boy things and most girls to want to do girl things would prevent me from noticing the following behaviors:An adult rip pink paper from a boy’s hand or otherwise discourage him from liking pink
And women who have both sons and daughters will often go on and on about their sons, while largely skipping over the importance of their daughters, or just mention the girls as a side story or talk about how they like to go shopping together — but rarely talk about their girls’ achievements in the same way they do their sons’ achievements, even when the daughters are more accomplished.
women tell me, point blank, that they don’t really like their daughters, but they love their sons because of this supposed “mother and son” relationship.
If a parent has a new baby, and it’s a boy, all you hear is “my son…my son…my son…my boy…my boy.” When people have a daughter, they tend not to mention the gender as often, usually just referring to gender when it would seem unnatural to do otherwise.
Etcetera. Even if I thought those behaviors were normal (I don’t), I would notice them. When people walk by me at work to get where they’re going it’s normal. But I still notice it.
[quote=CA renter]
Do you frequently associate with families who have sons? Do they bring their boys along to play/hang out with your daughter, or do they drop their sons off at other “boys’ activities” or another boy’s house before they come to visit with your family (I’m not talking about the infrequent guest, I’m talking about patterns of regular, consistent behavior)? If you notice it, do you question it, or do you just chalk it up to “normal” behavior? If you don’t challenge it, you’re unlikely to hear their reasons for doing it.
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We do frequently associate with families who have sons. On occasion, they’ll come over. Especially if the whole families are getting together. But, generally, they’ve got other activities lined up. That goes for the brothers and the sisters of my daughter’s friends. Kids are busy nowadays.
[quote=CA renter]Yes, my mother literally shoved me out of the way to get to my husband on multiple occasions — literally push me aside physically as she bee-lined for him with arms outstretched calling out something along the lines of, “Oh, it’s so good to see you, son.” Yes, shove. Again, I’m not making this up, and am not imagining things under any circumstances.
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Well, that’s a shame. And it probably does contribute to your perceptions of misogyny. For better or worse.
[quote=CA renter]How do I know that you can’t identify sexism or misogyny? Because you have claimed that overtly sexist behaviors and beliefs aren’t sexist or misogynistic. The segregation of boys and girls is sexist.
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I never advocated or supported the segregation of boys and girls.
[quote=CA renter]Exaggerating the differences between genders, and claiming that environmental influences aren’t responsible for most of what you describe, is sexist.
[/quote]Or realistic.
[quote=CA renter]Claiming that there are “boys activities” and “girls activities” and having a very binary view of the differences between genders is sexist.
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Claiming that there are “boys activities” and “girls activities is realistic. Claiming that there aren’t is wishful thinking (for those who would wish for such a thing).My view isn’t “very binary” It’s somewhat binary. Again, realistic, not sexist.
Let me ask you this, CA Renter: If I think the sexes are different, how is that sexist? I’m not saying one is better than the other. Just that they’re different.
What if they are different, and you’re hindering their development by believing they’re not?
[quote=CA renter]
Claiming that a woman who describes sexist or misogynistic experiences is “imagining things” is sexist.
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Not if they’re imagining things, it’s not.[quote=CA renter]
As for the “expert” comment, when I suggested that you don’t know as much about sexism as I do because you’re not a woman, you came back with a comment about a female with an IQ of 70 not knowing as much as a male “expert” on sexism. I understand that you might not have meant that as a direct comment about the status of you and me, but it certainly comes across in a peculiar way…
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You said, “ You are not an expert regarding sexism and misogyny, and you certainly don’t know more than I do about it because of the simple fact that you are not a woman.”
By that logic, any woman knows more about misogyny than every man. I was pointing out the ridiculousness of that claim by pointing to an unintelligent, uneducated, imperceptive, unobservant, lazy woman vs. a man highly educated in the field. Do you think that moronic woman who never gets out knows more about misogyny than the Harvard PhD? The question isn’t who knows what being a victim of misogyny feels like. The question is who knows more about misogyny.If you think that’s peculiar, I think you’re too sensitive. I thought it was pretty obvious what I was saying.
[quote=CA renter]Finally, I sincerely doubt that you would tell a black man that you know more about racism, or tell a gay man that you know more about homophobia.
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Sometimes I think you don’t even read my posts. I said I would tell a close friend or a stranger on a web forum if I thought they saw hate where there was none. And then I said, “But just because I think he occasionally sees racism where there isn’t any doesn’t necessarily mean that I think I have superior race-spotting skills in general.”[quote=CA renter]
I sincerely doubt that if they had related some of their experiences with prejudice to you that you would tell them that they “have issues” or that they are “imagining things” or “making things up.” We may never know, because it’s unlikely that we’ll get to experience this in a common setting like Piggington, but I really and truly doubt that you would have talked to them in the same manner that you’ve done with me. Just something to think about…[/quote]
No, unless they were close friends, I wouldn’t talk to them like I’ve done with you. Of course not. That’s not how society works. If they were close friends, of course I would tell them those things. Why wouldn’t I?
Here’s another question for you: You said I probably had no idea what it was like to be catcalled by strangers. I mentioned that that had actually happened to me on a couple occasions, and that I really liked it. I was watching “The Seventies” a couple weeks ago on CNN. Great show. They had footage from the ‘70s of feminists having an “ogle day,” where women would ogle men. There was a feminist trying to “harass” a man on the street, in front of TV cameras. She was saying what nice legs he had and how his pants brought out the best in him. She didn’t seem to notice the look on the guy’s face, which was some surprise, but mostly pleasure. The guy was loving it. She went on to say, into some microphone, how they were trying to show what it felt like to be catcalled by strangers. I remember thinking that those women didn’t understand men at all. I think most men would really like getting catcalled by women they didn’t know. And the main reason these women didn’t understand men is that, like so many feminists in the ’70s, they believed gender identity/behavior was a social construct. They thought that men and women were mostly the same, prior to social conditioning. So they thought that, since women don’t like being catcalled, neither would men.
Do you think that if all children were raised in a gender-neutral fashion, that boys would hate being catcalled by strangers, or that girls would enjoy it? Do you think if a girl, one individual girl, was raised in a gender-neutral fashion, that she would enjoy being catcalled, as most men would?
November 12, 2015 at 11:10 PM #791271CA renterParticipant[quote=zk]
Parents are much more protective these days than 30 or 40 years ago. Kids back then were left unattended most of their free time. They were allowed to do all kinds of things that most parents today wouldn’t dream of letting their kids do. Our culture has gradually shifted from kids doing mostly what they want with whom they want, to one where kids are ultra-closely monitored, and that has left the sexes relatively segregated. Nothing misogynistic about it. Again, the desire to keep girls away from boys is at least as big a part of it as the other way around.
[/quote][quote=zk]I pointed out a reasonable alternative to your theory of why children are segregated. Not dependent on your M.T.G.
[/quote]And I pointed out that I was referring to the segregation that happens at a very young age, even infancy. This segregation isn’t due to parents worrying about their kids having sex.
[quote=CA renter]ZK, the examples I’ve mentioned were absolutely based on the fact that these parents didn’t want their boys to be “contaminated” by anything remotely feminine. They made it very clear why they didn’t want their sons to sit with girls or, in the case of the infant boy, to wear pastel clothing. They didn’t beat around the bush at all. I just can’t type out the conversations and social history in a post here, for brevity’s sake.
And the segregation I’m talking about happens at a very early age — infancy, in some cases. I’m not talking about teenagers who are segregated by their parents because the parents are worried about rape, etc. At that stage, the kids are already reintegrating themselves because they are going through puberty and want to have sex with one another. The problem is that this is happening after years of brainwashing and segregation that highlight and exacerbate the differences between the genders and result in people objectifying each other because they don’t know how to relate in a healthy and holistic way. Kids should never be segregated in the first place, IMO; not by gender, race, age, religion, etc., because this amplifies the worst in each group, whereas integration balances things out because people can learn from one another and relate with one another in a more natural way.
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And this statement of yours needs some clarification:
Our culture has gradually shifted from kids doing mostly what they want with whom they want, to one where kids are ultra-closely monitored, and that has left the sexes relatively segregated.
Are you admitting that kids, when left to their own devices, would be less segregated than they are today because today’s parents are encouraging this segregation? Perhaps this “boys want to play with boys and girls want to play with girls” nonsense is made up or encouraged socialized behavior as a result of the parents’ prejudices?
Because we might actually be in agreement on that one. 😉
November 12, 2015 at 11:55 PM #791273CA renterParticipant[quote=zk]
[quote=CA renter]
Look at scaredy’s posts about his sons. That is what we see on a daily basis — the notion that females are “screwed up” and neurotic, and that boys need to be protected from that.
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Put down your misogyny-tinted glasses and then read scaredy’s posts again. What scaredy said was that he was neurotic, and that he didn’t want to create another generation of neurotic men. What he said in reference to females was:“Is this intrinsic to men or is the above description the result of the last generation of mothers screwing with their sons heads. “
And when he said “this,” he was referring to your description of what made a man a good friend to other men. And part of his point was that women can’t understand what makes a man a good friend to another man, and that they should stay out of the discussion. And that those moms (and maybe our culture) shouldn’t be trying to feminize men. Not because there’s anything wrong with women. But because there’s nothing wrong with men being men.[/quote]
[quote=zk]I mentioned your M.T.G., but my point was not dependent on them. I pointed out that you misread scaredy’s post (and that therefore your point was not valid).[/quote]
I wasn’t only referring to that one post; I was referring to the string of posts that expressed a desire to “defeminize” boys.
Here is just one of many:
[quote=scaredyclassic]Look, as a former, and some might say present, little male bitch, I am qualified to speak on this. Women are disqualified. Women weighing in here is like having the HR dept. actually legislate,reality in a workplace which they do not and cannot.
Mens’ play fighting and challenging is how we measure one another and how friendships form.
Feminizing language and male behavior is what we and my parents tried to do but it does not go well. Boys,will be boys,and that is what makes men.
I’m not saying there aren’t other ways to be men or manly just that this chatter is,well within mormal.
More than anything, fathers should want to raise sons,perceived as normal males by other male peers.
Women have no say in this matter, Just as men shouldn’t be allowed to dictate to to women how they work out their relative status and pecking order.[/quote]
Again, if women cannot speak about male behavior or how they perceive themselves in society, then men cannot speak about female behavior, or dictate to them what what they should perceive as sexist or misogynistic behavior. If one group of people is treated differently from another group, especially if they have historically been oppressed by the other group, then it is up to them to determine what is or isn’t unjust treatment. Of course the group in power will want to dictate things to them, as they’ve always done. Of course, they would like to exaggerate the differences between the groups in an attempt to justify the imbalance of power between the groups. It doesn’t mean that they are right, and they certainly are in no position to tell the oppressed group that they are incapable of discerning prejudicial behavior just because they’ve been subjected to it.
And you’ve said that you’ve never heard or seen a parent talk about not wanting their boys to be “feminized” and you clearly missed this perfect example right here. Scaredy’s posts are think with it, all throughout this thread, but you’ve missed it completely.
Even your assertion that “we don’t want boys to be like girls” is a perfect example of it! And you use this as a justification to guide boys into segregated activities. This is exactly what I’m talking about.
Yes, it happens all day long, every day. We women hear it, see it, and feel it…even if some women are not consciously aware of it at all times. Men do, too. It informs our perspectives on gender and the relation of power between the genders. It is systemic, which is why you don’t notice it. You excuse it as “normal” or “natural” behavior, as I’ve been saying all along. You also didn’t even notice that the most insulting language directed at males and females is almost entirely misogynistic. The worst insults for males refer to the feminization or emasculinization of boys/men. The worst insults for females refer, in vulgar terms, to her anatomy, or to her sexual behavior (that doesn’t have the same negative connotations for men). You do not notice these things because you are not aware of them or alert to them in a way that women are (and many women are also largely unaware because of the systemic nature of sexism in our society…they think it’s “normal,” too). Again, I am not imagining things. You are the one who doesn’t see things even when they are hitting you in the face. You are completely blind to it.
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And women absolutely do pass on the misogyny. You have no idea how many times I’ve heard women say:“I have such a GREAT relationship with my son. There is nothing like the relationship between a mother and her son. Boys are just so special.”
[/quote]Thinking boys are special is not misogyny.
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[quote=zk]I pointed out your erroneous assertion that thinking boys are special equates to misogyny. Nothing to do with your M.T.G. (Except maybe evidence that you’re wearing them).[/quote]And you were wrong. Let’s turn this around. Let’s say a mother has a black child and a white child, would you say: “Thinking white children are special is not racist.” Really?
If boys are special, what are girls?
Yes, that is a perfect example of sexism, and it shows how some parents treat different-gendered children in a way that would affect these children and their perceptions of themselves, and their gender, for life.
November 13, 2015 at 12:07 AM #791274CA renterParticipantHere’s yet another sexist quote that flew right over your head (one of many).
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Inocuous according to a reasonable middle school male hoping to be accepted by normal male peers so he can have normal relationships with other grown men
Not Inocuous to a little bitch.
More likely than not, son was trying extend friendship in a,peer group. Now the kid is likely to not get such an invitation from those kids at least.[/quote]
You do realize that “bitch” is a sexist word when applied to a human, right? And when someone calls a male a “bitch,” it’s considered one of the more serious insults; it’s more likely to start a physical fight than calling a male a “dick.” Ask yourself why that is.
Here are some other juicy ones that are likely to start a fist fight:
c*cksucker, f*ggot, motherf*cker, c*nt, (if you think that’s insulting to a woman, try calling a man one), p*ssy, vag*na, etc. All of these have to do with the feminization or emasculinization of males. They are some of the most insulting terms…why is that?
And the most common, and most insulting words for a female? B*tch, c*nt, whore, slut, C*m dumpster, etc.
When I tried to get this across to you, you seemed unaware, as I’m sure most people are. That doesn’t mean that sexism and misogyny don’t exist. You’re just unaware of the majority of situations where it exists.
November 13, 2015 at 2:28 AM #791272CA renterParticipant[quote=zk]
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My response to Brian should make clear my position on this. In the vast majority of cases that we’ve seen and experienced, the segregation is being done to prevent the “feminization” of boys; it’s not done to prevent the girls from becoming too masculine.
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Here’s where you’re wrong:
Not wanting boys to be like girls is not the same as hating females. It’s not misogyny. Do you want boys to be like girls? Do you want girls to be like boys?
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[quote=zk]I pointed out your erroneous assertion that not wanting boys to be like girls is the same as hating girls. (You had earlier said that the segregation of boys and girls was misogynistic). This, again, does not rely on the assumption that you wear misogyny-tinted glasses.[/quote]This isn’t about “hating girls,” this is about hating the feminization of boys. I’ve bolded my quote so you can read it again. There is a reason for wanting to keep a boy from being “feminized.” What might that be? Does it exist on the same level as not wanting a girl to be “masculinized”? Why, or why not?
Yes, not wanting boys to be “like girls” can indeed be sexist, and possibly misogynistic. If you are opposed to the “feminization” of boys, then you obviously have very little understanding of the fact that genders are not nearly as binary as you seem to think they are. There are feminine boys who are way over on the “feminine” side of the spectrum, and there are masculine girls who are far on the “masculine” side of the spectrum. It is not binary, no matter how desperately you try to wish it into existence. Trying to force your erroneous beliefs about gender types on children is extremely unhealthy for the child. They need to determine for themselves how they want to be, without the external influences that seek to push them into a “socially acceptable” box.
And I said that the segregation was being done to prevent the “feminization” of boys. Based on your response, it would appear that you don’t like the “feminization” of boys (or the “masculinization” of girls, too?) and use this as a justification for gender segregation. So, it would appear as though you’re admitting that I was right.
November 13, 2015 at 2:59 AM #791270CA renterParticipant[quote=zk][quote=CA renter]
Again, every single one of your “points” hinges on your belief that I “wear misogyny-tinted glasses.” If you can show me a point that you’ve made that addresses the issue without relying on this claim, please point it out.
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From page 4 (where our debate started):
[quote=zk][quote=CA renter][quote=Blogstar]You think boys and girls don’t mix in 2015 and you call it “misogynistic”? Wow![/quote]What if we changed it to say this:
“You think whites and blacks don’t mix in 2015 and you call it “racist”? Wow!
What, exactly, are you surprised by? That it appears as though boys and girls are more segregated today than when we were growing up; or that, if true, it would be considered misogynistic?[/quote]
That doesn’t even make sense. That analogy would only hold water if someone had said that lack of interracial interaction was due to blacks hating whites and someone else said:
“You think whites and blacks don’t mix in 2015 and you say it’s because blacks hate whites? Wow!”
See, because that would be taking issue with laying the blame for the lack of interaction on one side. You blamed misogyny, and Russ took issue with it. The speaker above blamed blacks’ hate for whites. To take issue with that seems like a valid, proper, basically required response.[/quote]
I pointed out the failure of logic in your analogy. The identification of this failure had nothing to do with your misogyny-tinted glasses.[/quote]
And this is where your logic breaks down. If white kids and black kids were segregated because white parents thought that white kids should hang out with other white kids because “that’s who they want to hang out with” or because they perceive that they have more in common with one another, most people would consider that to be racist. It might be “normal” or “natural” behavior, but most people would admit that excluding one group of people because of the way they were born is wrong, especially if the ones doing the majority of the excluding are the people who have historically held power over the other group.
November 13, 2015 at 4:32 AM #791277AnonymousGuest[quote=CA renter]Nice view. I had a similar view earlier this year.[/quote]
Cool, where did you stay? Did you walk or cab to work?
Let’s see some photos!
[quote]You were defending HFT, and I was explaining why it can be damaging to our economy. There are plenty of “experts” who agree with me on this, BTW, and many of them come from Ivy League schools, too.
You are biased in favor of Wall Street, which is understandable. That doesn’t mean that what you want is what’s good for our economy. [/quote]
We aren’t talking about “what’s good for the economy” we are talking about your claim that I have “no knowledge” of HFT along with your general theme of claiming to know more about financial topics than everyone else here.
[quote]I’ve also known someone who was the director of the board of one of the major exchanges. We used to discuss finance and economics a lot. It struck me, though, that his frame of reference was extremely narrow, and that he really didn’t grasp the larger picture or understand some of the consequences of certain actions on the larger world. [/quote]
And from there you conclude that you know more about financial markets than a “director of the board of one of the major exchanges” ?
[quote]Again, the “experts,” most of whom have advanced degrees from ivy-league schools, claimed that their wasn’t a stock market/internet bubble, or a housing/credit bubble. Many of them claim that the Federal Reserve’s responses to the financial crisis have been a positive thing (we have yet to see how that plays out in the long run). They were wrong, and many “amateur economists” have been right. This happens far more often than most people would like to admit, in many different fields.[/quote]
That’s some verbose backpedaling.
Why did you claim that I have “no knowledge” of a profession where I’ve seen some success?
How would you be qualified to make that claim?
Oh, I get it:
Because experts are occasionally wrong, you are always right!
November 13, 2015 at 6:30 AM #791278CA renterParticipantI didn’t say that you knew nothing about HFT. I said that it was damaging to our economy. You disagreed, rather vehemently, as usual. We went back and forth regarding the benefits and problems with HFT.
Not sure if this is the thread, but it was the only one that I could find with a quick search. If you can find another thread, feel free to link it.
http://piggington.com/here_we_go_again_low_low_down_payment?page=5
I stand by my assertion that we do not need HFT, and that it presents us with more potential problems than solutions.
As to this quote of yours:
“Because experts are occasionally wrong, you are always right!”
I never said anything like that. But your idolization of “experts” or people with Ivy League degrees in not a trait shared by me. I question everything that somebody tells me until they can produce a compelling argument that is based on facts, evidence, and logic. Claiming that they are “experts” will get them nowhere.
November 13, 2015 at 6:41 AM #791279scaredyclassicParticipantYou ever get to that point in an argument with your spouse where you’re not even sure what you’re arguing about anymore?
Usually just the girl is crying but you’re both dizzy with the distances travelled?
I just read THE ARAB OF THE FUTURE, a comic book by riad sattouf, Charlie hebdo contributor, about growing up in libya/syria. Now that shit is midogynistic! We barely register on the scale.
Microaggressions?
November 13, 2015 at 6:55 AM #791280scaredyclassicParticipant[quote=CA renter]Here’s yet another sexist quote that flew right over your head (one of many).
[quote=scaredyclassic]
Inocuous according to a reasonable middle school male hoping to be accepted by normal male peers so he can have normal relationships with other grown men
Not Inocuous to a little bitch.
More likely than not, son was trying extend friendship in a,peer group. Now the kid is likely to not get such an invitation from those kids at least.[/quote]
You do realize that “bitch” is a sexist word when applied to a human, right? And when someone calls a male a “bitch,” it’s considered one of the more serious insults; it’s more likely to start a physical fight than calling a male a “dick.” Ask yourself why that is.
Here are some other juicy ones that are likely to start a fist fight:
c*cksucker, f*ggot, motherf*cker, c*nt, (if you think that’s insulting to a woman, try calling a man one), p*ssy, vag*na, etc. All of these have to do with the feminization or emasculinization of males. They are some of the most insulting terms…why is that?
And the most common, and most insulting words for a female? B*tch, c*nt, whore, slut, C*m dumpster, etc.
When I tried to get this across to you, you seemed unaware, as I’m sure most people are. That doesn’t mean that sexism and misogyny don’t exist. You’re just unaware of the majority of situations where it exists.[/quote]
Bitch has been adopted by women, much like the N word. I don’t think it works anymore. Women talk about hanging with their bitches, etc.
November 13, 2015 at 6:56 AM #791281scaredyclassicParticipantIt’s more of an accusation of weakness, sissiness. Women are weaker, on the whole and that’s why they love men in uniform and badges. Protection.
November 13, 2015 at 7:43 AM #791282AnonymousGuest[quote=CA renter]I didn’t say that you knew nothing about HFT. I said that it was damaging to our economy. You disagreed, rather vehemently, as usual. We went back and forth regarding the benefits and problems with HFT.
[/quote]From the previous page of this thread:
[quote=CA renter]
And my knowledge wasn’t based on a Rolling Stone article. I was using that as a quick and easy reference to what’s been going on with HFT because you displayed no knowledge, just more of your ad hominem attacks. I’ve been studying economics, finance, and social studies for decades.
[/quote]I added the emphasis on because you displayed no knowledge.
(Now let’s put the the blatant contradictions aside because it’s well-established that you can’t see them even when they are plainly presented to you…)
The hilarious part of these conversations is that you have “displayed no knowledge” of HFT – or even a basic understanding of financial markets in general – and yet you consistently proclaim yourself to be the “expert” on these subjects.
So tell us more about your trip to the financial district. Although I’d never want to live here, I have a sort of fascination with NYC. So many interesting stories. What’s yours?
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