This thread is timely. A friend recently hit me up for cash because he was two months behind on rent and his internet was about to get turned off. No car, no job and not a penny in the bank.
He hadn’t worked in several months and hadn’t even been looking for work. Yet he still managed to find the money to go out and eat and go out for drinks.
I ‘loaned’ him almost $500 last year to help him pay for a DUI lawyer–with the full expectation that I wouldn’t ever see a penny of it again.
This time I just couldn’t do it. He needed several large to get current on his rent and even though I could afford to lend him some money I knew I’d never see it again and I wasn’t ok with that this time. I also thought that he needed to learn a lesson in personal responsibility and money management (he’s 50 YO fer chrissakes).
He doesn’t talk to me much since then…oh well. I prefer to surround myself with non fuck ups anyways.