This is an interesting discussion. You and I have a lot in common. I, too, grew up poor (spent part of my childhood living in a public housing project) and am now shopping in the same price range you are. I put myself through lots of school, got involved as employee #3 at a tiny company that I am now president of. The major difference between us is that I am a woman.
I imagine that my husband would be pretty unhappy if I dragged him through 100 homes and then said we are renting. He would have every right to be frustrated and I would totally understand that. But somehow I doubt ANYONE on these boards would call HIM spoiled and whiny and suggest he get a job. I also doubt they would accuse him of spending my money at the beauty salon.
Some of the guys on this board really need to get a clue about women…