My husband and I do not really fit the “Temecula profile” – i.e. we do not have kids, with no plan to. We’re in our mid-40s, college educated, enjoy the arts, good restaurants and some semblance of social life.
We’re new to the area, do not have family here (just a few close friends down in Mission Hills).
Jobs: he has a very good six-figure salary tech job in the Temecula area. My job is located in No Cty, but I go to the office a few times a month and telecommute rest of time.
We decided to try renting here because his job is located in this area. I didnt feel it was fair to make my husband drive 80+ miles a day just so I can be closer to foreign films, Nordstroms and good restaurants.
I grew up in urban enviroments and absolutely do NOT have a problem with diversity. What DOES bother me is that with out kids, I feel like a fish out of water here. I would prefer to live in a community where I might actually meet a friend or two.
When I drive around some areas and see the low-rider pants-bling-wearing hip hoppers driving pumped up cars, my first thought is, “dayum. I wont be having tea and scones in Old Town, or to lunch at The Smokehouse, with these dudes any time soon.”
I truly dont want to live in a bubble. I just feel like I dont fit in up here and it’s distresing to some degree because it is a nice place. But I miss jumping in my car and going to a funky film, hanging out a dive bar in Mission Hills with my artist friends, or eating at a Zagat-rated restaurant. Maybe I need to give it more time.
In no way do I mean any ill-will against Temecula and it’s ‘scene’ – it’s just not quite the same up here. I’ve tried taking classes (yoga, pilates and womens golf). In all cases, the women were moms and talked about their kids, schools, soccer teams, etc. I cant blame them – that is what they have in common.
My husband’s argument is that if we buy a $400K house in Temecula, we can REALLY sock away $$$$ for early retirment, think about buying a second home, and enjoy vacations to Europe, Asia, etc. He is also a “techno-geek” kinda guy and not as bothered about social networks and extracurricular activities. He just wants a house with a huge garage and an efficient kitchen. If there was room to build a plane, he’d be in heaven.
So, that’s my story! Just trying to figure out what the best move will be for us.
