if i had kids, i’d probably want to raise them myself. i think when you add another person to the mix it causes problems.
getting married does not mean you cant protect assets.
there is a simple tool that can be used to protect your assets – a trust. my best friend lives in a $4million coastal home and is married to husband #4. they’ve now been married for 12 years, and it’s solid. but he had almost nothing when they married. her trust owns everything. if she dies before him (unlikely), he would be able to live in HER house and drive his car (owned by her) until he dies. then, the rights of ownership would pass to her son and daughter.
people can be so stoooopid about love, marriage and money. but, if they weren’t the suze ormans of the world would be poor.
i married my 2nd husband three years ago, after an 8 yr marriage that failed.
i had about six years to myself after my divorce. I used that time to rebuild and get reacquainted with myself.
Getting married again was a HUGE adjustment for a while, but luckily, we’ve both got busy careers and are very independent. we’re pretty good about keeping each other honest.
i think the nicest thing about getting married later (I was 40) is that you know what you want, what your boundaries are, and how to deal with things that dont work for you. i was also very ‘intentional’ about finding a PARTNER.
years ago, when i was too obstinate to listen, a very wise friend told me that if two people have shared VALUES – which, unlike INTERESTS and BELIEFS – are not apt to change, find each other attractive, compatible and can be good friends – will be more successful at the marriage game than those who are just looking for a hot body and/or a meal ticket.
i also dont think everyone in the world needs to get married. i married a military officer and, in that world, it’s easier to be married. if anything ever happened to my husband, i would NOT re-marry. i’d just buy a house in costa rica, create bad paintings, write mediocre poetry, and have a well-compensated pool boy.
