Honestly paramount, it sounds you are feeling sorry for yourself for reasons other than where you live.
My wife and I moved to Temecula in 2004. We bought, even though I knew the home would never be a good long-term investment. We were “downsizing” – at least in price – from a condo in West LA, so I rationalized it as “reducing my position” in RE at the time.
We chose Temecula because were going to raise our family there. With an 18 month old child and two in the oven, we were looking for the suburban life on a cul-de-sac. And I think we found a pretty nice one.
I have no regrets. None. Temecula is our home. We have every intention of raising our kids through high school there. Since I’ve come to CA, I’ve been fortunate enough to live in many places, including some high-end neighborhoods in the Bay Area and elsewhere. Temecula is great for families. There are no gangs – that is nonsense, and the stats prove it. Sure the city council is a bunch of boneheads – but that’s true more places than not. There is a conservative political slant for sure. I’m generally pretty moderate/liberal but it’s not a problem if I just don’t talk politics with my neighbors (which is good advice in any neighborhood…)
Wine country is nice. We see balloons every weekend – sometimes they fly right over our house! Our kids attend one of the best-ranking public schools in the state.
Don’t listen to the haters. Check it out for yourself. If you decide not to stay, be sure to take some wine home with you.