It was illuminating to see some of the responses to my comment.

My comment essentially said “insecurity as a validation or excuse for bad behavior is allowed only for women”, and pointing out the inequity of the situation.

Some people decided their best response was to pick on what was only intended as a humorous, albeit pointed, analogy.

Let me put is this way: If a man uses the same, or an equally lame excuse, bullshit would be called instantly.

Let’s give it a try:

Man: I have a very strong instinct to protect and provide, and when I saw how vulnerable and innocent that woman was, it was what drove me to the act of infidelity.

How far do you think that rationalization would fly?