[quote=TechyWorker]Quite interesting TG. Not currently divorced but do to badgering been doing “research” on match.com just wondering what’s out there, since I don’t really get out.

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So in the end I’ll probably keep mine despite the many shortcomings and general meanness and bitterness and get her some supplements, such as meds or a young lover. I’ve never internet dated, I was just curious about the market in general.
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I am intrigued by the resilience of both men and women to live in complete misery for extended periods of time with a spouse they’ve grown despise. I don’t understand this kind of psychology. I have several friends in horrible marriages, yet they choose to stick it out. Maybe they’re hoping the issues will somehow miraculously resolve themselves. Certainly stability of the kids and finances are huge factors, but when the relationship noticeably affects your health and personality, perhaps it’s time to seriously consider pulling the trigger. Maybe your situation isn’t as dire. I’m a firm believer that you must take care of yourself first before you can effectively take care of anyone else.

Over the years, I have literally watched one friend age at an accelerated rate, lose the spark in his eyes, and the once quick charming wit is long gone. Ironically, he is an assertive person and holds a high pressure upper management position with a large staff. He regularly making critical decisions with ease often with little data, yet he can’t make the decision to move on with his life even though he wants to. He makes 180k+/yr base and probably 300K/yr with bonus/stock options on a good year. Believe it or not, they live check to check supporting the McMansion and lifestyle. Not long ago, he ask her to consider getting a job or cut back on discretionary spending. Her answer was “No, if I have to get a job what do I need you for?” The arrogance and sense of entitlement is just unbelievable. This may be an extreme example, but in my experience, there are many women with similar attitudes, especially in mid-upper class north county society. The keeping up with Joneses mentality and competitive nature of these women is truly frightening. I can only conclude that irrational fear of losing everything can drive women to be this way.

I would love to see a map of bad marriages overlayed on SD County. I’d bet it would dwarf any NOD/foreclosure radar map. Leykis, where were you 20 years ago.