“traffic, then you could tolerate it. My dentist’s receptionist left Vista because her kids were so scared to get beaten up in the school bathroom, that they would “hold it” all day. Have you ever heard of such a thing? Afraid of going into the school bathroom? She said the schools were very very bad.”
I thought you said that about San Marcos High once, might be mistaken.
If you work in Vista/Carlsbad/San Marcos/Oceanside and need not move to find alternative work (say you are a lawyer), Vista can give some good deals. The money you save will more than offset the costs of a private school education for 1 or 2 kids, for an equivalent home in Carlsbad. The elementary schools Lake and middle school Madison in Vista are not bad. And even Rancho Buena Vista high school is not the pits like San Marcos high.
If you need to commute ever to San Diego for work, the best option is Shadowridge in Vista. I used to drive from there to work in Carlsbad (I still work in Carlsbad). Now that Melrose is open, it should take you about 20 minutes to hit 5 via La Costa. Or you can take Rancho Santa Fe via Melrose and take El Camino to the Manchester exit (about 1/2 hour even at rush time).