[quote=CBad]There are alcohol issues which is the reason for the no smoking/drinking/drugs condition. He says he is off and in AA otherwise this decision would be an automatic NO WAY.[/quote]

CBad, I wish you all much love and healing as you extend yourselves to help him.

Let your love be unconditional, with no need to receive anything back directly from him, and your love and energy will return to you. If you become attached to a particular outcome here with him, you may be disappointed.