“By the way, this is coming from a woman. Ahem, a woman who does have common sense and a rational brain inside her head. I swear some of the men on this board must have really had some bad relationships in the past. We’re not ALL like that.”

Yes, CBad, there are a fair amount of scared and scarred men that post here. Maybe they fell for the trap of looks over substance and got burned? My husband swears that the high school dorky, geeky girls, the late bloomers, are the ones that hit their stride later and are beautiful, accomplished, physically fit high achievers after the others have faded out. I also think the late bloomers would be the ones with the rational brains and common sense…they figured out as teens that they couldn’t manipulate the boys!