Ot. I don't feel thankful

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Submitted by scaredyclassic on November 23, 2017 - 11:50am

Who is there to thank? No one.

I feel lucky at my good outcome in the random lottery that is life. I don't feel like I earned much of my good outcome by my own efforts. All the help I got was random too. I just caught a lot of lucky breaks. Yes, family, society helped me, but these were randomly assigned to my life.

But is a person really grateful for what in essence is merely a big casino win in the roulette wheel spin of life. Or is it just the way the cards played out.

There is no G-d, no force in the universe that gives a rats ass about us, no purpose, no meaning other than what I ascribe to it.

Happy holidays everyone!

Submitted by SK in CV on November 23, 2017 - 2:32pm.

I'm with you.

No god, except the one that makes you capitalize the word, and not spell it out. Habit is GOD! Oops. G-D!

Submitted by zk on November 23, 2017 - 11:13pm.

My Thanksgiving sentiment:

Thanks, random chance!

Submitted by FlyerInHi on November 24, 2017 - 11:31am.

Yesterday, I was thankful to myself for all that I achieved in 2017. I'm feeling good about 2018.

Submitted by zk on November 24, 2017 - 12:37pm.

FlyerInHi wrote:
Yesterday, I was thankful to myself for all that I achieved in 2017. I'm feeling good about 2018.

You couldn't have achieved any of it without random chance.

Submitted by njtosd on November 25, 2017 - 2:26pm.

You poor guys - and I include Brian because he is just expressing the full-of-himself view that he always does - you're missing out: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the...

Submitted by zk on November 25, 2017 - 4:55pm.

njtosd wrote:
You poor guys - and I include Brian because he is just expressing the full-of-himself view that he always does - you're missing out: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201511/how-gratitude-leads-happier-life

I didn't say I'm not grateful. I said I am grateful. I'm grateful to random chance. Seriously. I have a lot of wonderful things in my life. And they're all due to random chance. Random chance has been very, very good to me.

I'm aware that I'm lucky. I'm lucky I was born a white, intelligent, good-looking (when I was younger) male to upper-class parents in the United States in the middle of the twentieth century. Those are seven huge advantages, and I'm not responsible for any of them. Random chance is.

I'm aware that I wouldn't have the life I have now without random chance being good to me. And I am thankful for that.

Submitted by flyer on November 25, 2017 - 6:31pm.

Imo, these types of discussions are really First World problem issues. Whatever we choose to believe the source of our excellence (tongue-in-cheek) to
be--random chance, brilliance, God, luck, etc.--most of us have tremendous advantages in life compared to much of the world, and whether we feel thankful/grateful or not for those advantages is simply a personal choice.

In the final analysis, thankful or not, there is a 100% probability that our lives on earth are temporary, so enjoy while you can.

Submitted by scaredyclassic on November 25, 2017 - 8:04pm.

they worry more about this religious crap not in the 1st world!

i just cant stand people saying they are blessed, or especially to blessed to be stressed. id be ok if they said they were anointed and favored by the Lord with more vecause theyre superior.

im kind of enjoying things, but im still irritated about being one of the select group to get my taxes jacked up by a bunch of phonies..

Submitted by njtosd on November 25, 2017 - 10:02pm.

zk wrote:
njtosd wrote:
You poor guys - and I include Brian because he is just expressing the full-of-himself view that he always does - you're missing out: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201511/how-gratitude-leads-happier-life

I didn't say I'm not grateful. I said I am grateful. I'm grateful to random chance. Seriously. I have a lot of wonderful things in my life. And they're all due to random chance. Random chance has been very, very good to me.

I'm aware that I'm lucky. I'm lucky I was born a white, intelligent, good-looking (when I was younger) male to upper-class parents in the United States in the middle of the twentieth century. Those are seven huge advantages, and I'm not responsible for any of them. Random chance is.

I'm aware that I wouldn't have the life I have now without random chance being good to me. And I am thankful for that.

So you are saying that you were lucky to be a white male rather than ..... what? Because the alternative (a non white woman - gasp) would be unlucky?

Submitted by zk on November 25, 2017 - 11:13pm.

njtosd wrote:

So you are saying that you were lucky to be a white male rather than ..... what? Because the alternative (a non white woman - gasp) would be unlucky?

Of course. Do you not think that white males have had an advantage in our society over everybody else since our country was founded?

Submitted by harvey on November 26, 2017 - 8:09am.

njtosd wrote:
So you are saying that you were lucky to be a white male rather than ..... what? Because the alternative (a non white woman - gasp) would be unlucky?

That's a novel use of this year's Thanksgiving harvest: Building a strawman.

Submitted by outtamojo on November 26, 2017 - 11:18am.

zk wrote:
njtosd wrote:
You poor guys - and I include Brian because he is just expressing the full-of-himself view that he always does - you're missing out: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201511/how-gratitude-leads-happier-life

I didn't say I'm not grateful. I said I am grateful. I'm grateful to random chance. Seriously. I have a lot of wonderful things in my life. And they're all due to random chance. Random chance has been very, very good to me.

I'm aware that I'm lucky. I'm lucky I was born a white, intelligent, good-looking (when I was younger) male to upper-class parents in the United States in the middle of the twentieth century. Those are seven huge advantages, and I'm not responsible for any of them. Random chance is.

I'm aware that I wouldn't have the life I have now without random chance being good to me. And I am thankful for that.

Wow this is pretty much my life philosophy

Submitted by outtamojo on November 26, 2017 - 11:27am.

njtosd wrote:
You poor guys - and I include Brian because he is just expressing the full-of-himself view that he always does - you're missing out: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201511/how-gratitude-leads-happier-life

Ah, but who should be grateful and who should not, and for what...should we never ask for more than what some think we "deserve" given our station in life? Poor, poor,ungrateful people.

Submitted by scaredyclassic on November 26, 2017 - 1:26pm.

maybe grateful people are happier. maybe religious people are happier too. but id rather be less happy and not have to believe a lie. given how very selfish we all are, right down to our genes, its difficult to really feel gratitude for anothers help. i subscrive to the theory that there is not one move or breath we take that is not singularly devoted to ourselves...i guess you could maybe frame the apparently selfless act as for another, but i dont see it......but ultimately, we all do what we think is best for us in the moment.

should my kids really be "grateful" to me for whatever i did for them? i dont know. i didnt really do it for them. it was always all about me. bringing them into this ceappy little world because i needed company.

on the other hand, ill be grateful and really enjoy it if the tax bill fails.

Submitted by pokepud3 on November 26, 2017 - 4:13pm.

I'm grateful to be blessed and a believer in God. Usually you don't care about faith until you fall onto hard times, which is why poor people tend to be religious than rich people. When times are good, it's chance or due to your efforts, when times are bad it's gods fault, and he can help you out is how some think.

Don't see how you can look around at the world and the intricate design and beauty within it and still think God is a lie and that it's all completely random. Yes, the family and environment you were born in was a chance, thank I believe, I can understand if you thought that established religion is a lie due to corruption, but god being a lie is a different issue altogether.

I'm thankful to have a head on my shoulders that understands in grey areas, and that not everything is black and white :). Happy Black Friday, Cyber Monday, Turkey weekend.

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Submitted by zk on November 26, 2017 - 8:27pm.

pokepud3 wrote:

Don't see how you can look around at the world and the intricate design and beauty within it and still think God is a lie and that it's all completely random.

The whole, "the world is so intricate and beautiful that there must be a god" idea is patently ridiculous. You can't fathom that what we see could develop from random matter (even though science can explain most of it, and what it can't explain isn't some unfathomable mystery) but it makes perfect sense to you that a God - omnipotent, omniscient, and able to create all this intricacy and beauty - has always been there?

Most humans believe what they want to believe, which is the only reason anybody believes in their god.

Submitted by scaredyclassic on November 26, 2017 - 5:53pm.

pokepud3 wrote:
I'm grateful to be blessed and a believer in God. Usually you don't care about faith until you fall onto hard times, which is why poor people tend to be religious than rich people. When times are good, it's chance or due to your efforts, when times are bad it's gods fault, and he can help you out is how some think.

Don't see how you can look around at the world and the intricate design and beauty within it and still think God is a lie and that it's all completely random. Yes, the family and environment you were born in was a chance, thank I believe, I can understand if you thought that established religion is a lie due to corruption, but god being a lie is a different issue altogether.

I'm thankful to have a head on my shoulders that understands in grey areas, and that not everything is black and white :). Happy Black Friday, Cyber Monday, Turkey weekend.

oh its a lie. a big whopping lie. no one cares about us. no one. we are completely and utterly alone. all of us,and we all will die and all our children will die and everyone who has ever known us,will die and everything, everything that constitutes us will be utterly forgotten with no trace left in the universe. everything we ever thought or did was the result of random chemical processes with no meaning outside the meaning we briefly thought it had, which it didnt.

everyone has lied about everything to you, not one single thing you know is true.

somehow i find these thoughts cheering.

Submitted by moneymaker on November 26, 2017 - 9:41pm.

I'm thankful that my dog likes popcorn, otherwise I would have to pick it up after I accidentally drop it on the floor. I'm thankful for being able to watch the miss universe contest on a 70" TV. they all seems so homogeneous looking, but love the accents.

Submitted by scaredyclassic on November 27, 2017 - 8:52am.

moneymaker wrote:
I'm thankful that my dog likes popcorn, otherwise I would have to pick it up after I accidentally drop it on the floor. I'm thankful for being able to watch the miss universe contest on a 70" TV. they all seems so homogeneous looking, but love the accents.

strange u should mention that. i was actually at planet hollywood when some of these women came to check in a few,days,ago. they were actually fully decked out w sashes as they entered the hotel to go to the check in desk.

i saw some latin am. ones together. i think venezuela, peru, others.

they were so tall and healthy looking. i was like, who the hell are all those tall gorgeous creatures and why are they in a row? then i saw the sashes.

wow. in person they are impressive.

Submitted by pokepud3 on November 30, 2017 - 10:43am.

well you got your beliefs and I got mine. I can say your beliefs are false, and mine and right, and you can say the vice versa.. doesn't change anything. Cheers.

Submitted by zk on November 30, 2017 - 5:57pm.

pokepud3 wrote:
well you got your beliefs and I got mine. I can say your beliefs are false, and mine and right, and you can say the vice versa.. doesn't change anything. Cheers.

Well, it might not change anything, but if I'm using logic and reason and you're using... wait, what are you using again? Just saying what you believe? And thinking that carries weight even though it makes no sense?

You're living a lie. And, deep down inside, I think you know it. Cheers.

Submitted by scaredyclassic on November 30, 2017 - 6:40pm.

all beliefs are created equal.

Submitted by SK in CV on November 30, 2017 - 8:06pm.

scaredyclassic wrote:
all beliefs are created equal.

Yeah, they all require and acknowledge the suspension of logic. Otherwise, they wouldn't be beliefs.

Submitted by scaredyclassic on December 1, 2017 - 12:43am.

everything is true

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