Ot. MEET the patels.

[FlyerInHi]

[quote=scaredyclassic]This documentary is about an Americanized guy tryING to submit to an arranged marriage. It is just beautiful…[/quote]

It was boring. He’s not Americanized, he’s an American since he was born here.
I skipped most of the movie. The end is cute. Very American Hollywood happy ending.

[scaredyclassic]

I laughed so loud I woke up my youngest child.

Maybe it hit me close to home. I have the same parents, Except they’re jewish not indian.

[FlyerInHi]

An arranged marriage doesn’t sound so bad. Not a forced marriage but why not use soft power and introduce suitable partners to your children? It might just work.

[spdrun]

Because suitable for you might not be suitable/attractive for them, depending on the criteria. Unless your criteria are extremely broad, like “not a thief or axe murderer.”

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=spdrun]Because suitable for you might not be suitable/attractive for them, depending on the criteria. Unless your criteria are extremely broad, like “not a thief or axe murderer.”[/quote]

Parents,pretty much know what’s best for you. And,all women are basically the same. You’ll learn to love each other.

[La Jolla Renter]

[quote=SK in CV][quote=mixxalot]LOL I’ve worked with tons of Indians in tech work. Made a few good Indian friends but many are rude and racist at least based on my experience. Very tribal mindset to boot and very nepotistic based on my experience over the years.[/quote]

wow. just the same as American white people. Amazing.[/quote]

Not quite the same.

A white father that prefers (not demands) their daughter marry in their race is a racists. But the Indian, Chinese, Middle Eastern, ect. fathers that demand it, are not.

[spdrun]

Parents,pretty much know what’s best for you. And,all women are basically the same. You’ll learn to love each other.

I’m not attracted to all women equally. Neither, I suspect, is anyone else. Physical and psychological attraction are important parts of love.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=spdrun]

Parents,pretty much know what’s best for you. And,all women are basically the same. You’ll learn to love each other.

I’m not attracted to all women equally. Neither, I suspect, is anyone else. Physical and psychological attraction are important parts of love.[/quote]

Not really, for longterm marriage. if you’re parents show u a dozen good matches and u pick the one u find hottest, your marriage will likely last…better odds anyway than u going out there 2 find True Love.

[spdrun]

My parents wouldn’t know how to show me good matches. I’m generally not attracted or compatible to women from my own culture.

[njtosd]

[quote=scaredyclassic]I laughed so loud I woke up my youngest child.

Maybe it hit me close to home. I have the same parents, Except they’re jewish not indian.[/quote]

I liked the father. Frankly, I got a little tired of Ravi. His parents are right – he needed to stop whining and make a decision. Not sure but I don’t think his mom would make the Mother in Law of the year. His sister seemed interesting – I”m curious why there wasn’t more discussion of her dating travails.

So so so different from my parents. They never asked me who I was dating. Never pressured me. But, when I told them I was engaged my mother said “Now I can die happy”. She’s still alive . . .

[njtosd]

[quote=La Jolla Renter]
Not quite the same.

A white father that prefers (not demands) their daughter marry in their race is a racists. But the Indian, Chinese, Middle Eastern, ect. fathers that demand it, are not.[/quote]

Of course it’s the same. Why would it be different?

[njtosd]

[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=spdrun]Because suitable for you might not be suitable/attractive for them, depending on the criteria. Unless your criteria are extremely broad, like “not a thief or axe murderer.”[/quote]

Parents,pretty much know what’s best for you. And,all women are basically the same. You’ll learn to love each other.[/quote]

Do you believe that all men are basically the same? My parents (especially my mother) had no clue about who was best for me.

FYI – women are not all the same. There are some seriously crazy ones. Especially if their fathers were jerks.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=njtosd][quote=scaredyclassic]I laughed so loud I woke up my youngest child.

Maybe it hit me close to home. I have the same parents, Except they’re jewish not indian.[/quote]

I liked the father. Frankly, I got a little tired of Ravi. His parents are right – he needed to stop whining and make a decision. Not sure but I don’t think his mom would make the Mother in Law of the year. His sister seemed interesting – I”m curious why there wasn’t more discussion of her dating travails.

So so so different from my parents. They never asked me who I was dating. Never pressured me. But, when I told them I was engaged my mother said “Now I can die happy”. She’s still alive . . .[/quote]

life ultimately is about family and kids for most.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=njtosd][quote=scaredyclassic][quote=spdrun]Because suitable for you might not be suitable/attractive for them, depending on the criteria. Unless your criteria are extremely broad, like “not a thief or axe murderer.”[/quote]

Parents,pretty much know what’s best for you. And,all women are basically the same. You’ll learn to love each other.[/quote]

Do you believe that all men are basically the same? My parents (especially my mother) had no clue about who was best for me.

FYI – women are not all the same. There are some seriously crazy ones. Especially if their fathers were jerks.[/quote]

ok, maybe I was too broad…all the women that your family would pre-screen as suitable for marriage are more or less the same and anyone of them could work happily, and probably more likely than a child following his heart, on average. same for both sexes.

YMMV.

[FlyerInHi]

[quote=scaredyclassic]
life ultimately is about family and kids for most.[/quote]

That’s very conservative but I agree.

I still feel sorry for the guys who have to put up with crazy nagging wives. Sure there are difficult men too, but the men usually pay the bills. I wouldn’t put up with a demanding wife who didn’t pay my bills. That’s when an arranged marriage with a suitable dowry is useful.

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