OT: Divorce Lawyer

[scaredyclassic]

Getting married is a game for optimists but staying married is for pessimists.

Please be aware I’m making this shit up and not to take any of it as actual advice.

[UCGal]

[quote=UCGal][quote=Jacarandoso][quote=walterwhite]Which is nit incompatible with occasional spells of happiness.[/quote]

Nor is it incompatible with a best case scenario for over all quality of life for all involved. This may be hard to discern at times,more or less, depending on the people involved.[/quote]

Maybe I’m in denial… but I think you can be very happy when you find a person who’s a good partner in child rearing (if you have kids), financial endeavors, hobbies, travel. The key is being on the same page on the big stuff – money, kids, commitment.

But if the couple is out of balance on commitment (cheating), money (a spender vs a saver), or child rearing (strict parent vs lenient parent)… happiness is definitely doable.[/quote]
That last paragraph of mine came out wrong. Doh.

I meant that happiness was doable if you’re on the same page. It’s MUCH harder if you’re out of balance in any of those areas.

[Anonymous]

[quote=briansd1]Does happiness have anything to do with sexual attraction? What if you are really attracted to a certain type person, but you can’t find one who will like you back.

Can you compromise and still be happy with “the big stuff – money, kids, commitment.”[/quote]

I really want to make a joke about being “attracted to a certain type of person,” but the “can’t find one who will like me back” part is just too sad.

[jpinpb]

[quote=UCGal]I meant that happiness was doable if you’re on the same page. It’s MUCH harder if you’re out of balance in any of those areas.[/quote]
You guys seem like a very good pair!

[briansd1]

[quote=pri_dk]

I really want to make a joke about being “attracted to a certain type of person,” but the “can’t find one who will like me back” part is just too sad.
[/quote]

It happens more often than we think.

You were in the military, right? If you listen to servicemen talk among themselves you might think they are married to gorgeous women. Then you meet the wives in person.

I like walter’s outlook on life. Makes you look below the surface.

[Anonymous]

What does this have to do with the military?

But I am married to a gorgeous woman.

No, you’re not going to get to meet her in person.

[briansd1]

[quote=pri_dk]What does this have to do with the military? [/quote]

Men in the military like to talk about their women. It’s a lot of fantasy and little reality.

Just saying that reality generally doesn’t meet expectations in marriage. Lots of compromises are made.

[quote=pri_dk]
But I am married to a gorgeous woman.

No, you’re not going to get to meet her in person.[/quote]

Congrats to you. 🙂

[scaredyclassic]

But yeah in general it is foolish to fight in a divorce. Of course it’s also foolish to fight in a marriage.

I have a friend who does divorces and who is actually honest, wants no fighting and will try to work ot out as quick as possible. Also I like him.

I get no referral fee.

Pm me and I’ll get you his number.

[briansd1]

I agree, walter. when it’s over it’s over. why flight? You get hurt as much as the other party.

I could understand if there’s money to fight over. But generally there isn’t.

we should make getting married just as difficult as getting divorced so we people understand the legal contract they are getting into.

[njtosd]

[quote=briansd1]Does happiness have anything to do with sexual attraction? What if you are really attracted to a certain type person, but you can’t find one who will like you back.

[/quote]

Is the “certain type person” you’re talking about a “woman”? If so, your options are probably kind of limited.

[njtosd]

[quote=walterwhite]women are different now than they were then. men are the same.

ther ewill be periods of massive discontent in most women during marriage. if you appear clingy, fearful or show any sign of fear, the woman will see it as weakness and will attempt to eat you.

a man must always appear to be ready to pick up and leave nowadays.[/quote]

Did you ever read Mme Bovary? Anyway, I hope the comment about attempting “to eat you” was a joke because it was very funny. And I’ve been married for fourteen years (3 kids) and I think my husband is great. He cleans aggressively when he is mad and he has altogether too many spare engines, exhaust systems and other items of what he calls “unobtainium,” and he thinks I have too high a tolerance for clutter and that I have too many craft supplies. But we’re very happy with each other. The comments here explain to me where the divorces come from, though.

[scaredyclassic]

Wasn’t mme bovary kind of rich? Now everyone is mme bovary.

[svelte]

[quote=walterwhite]Getting married is a game for optimists but staying married is for pessimists.

Please be aware I’m making this shit up and not to take any of it as actual advice.[/quote]

lol! a lot of great lines in this thread from walter!

[svelte]

Well she gave him the papers tonight. She was serious.

Now the ball is in his court, I guess.

It’s funny, they are both so nonchalant about the whole thing. My wife and I are more upset than they are. I think there is such a thing as too laid back – and they are.

[svelte]

[quote=jpinpb]
I don’t know how long the marriage is, but forcing to stay together for the kids could cause resentment. One more straw and strain on the relationship. Debateable whether it’s good for the kids or not in the end, depending on how old the kids are.[/quote]

Kids are too young and will never remember this ever happened.

The reason I suggested they stay together last time is that the reasons they both gave for wanting to split were petty and minor. I thought that, given time, their love for the kids would bind them and that they wouldn’t have time to nitpick each other. Guess I was wrong.

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